Valentine’s Day: The Barman’s Common Sense Guide
You don’t serve people for twenty plus years with learning a little about them. Most especially, you see all the bonehead moves that men and women try in attempts to get whatever it is their after, and watch them fail miserably. Bad timing, bad pick-up lines, a wrong glare, or in the right place at the wrong time not knowing how to handle it are just a few things I have seen that people do to mess up a good time.
Let’s face it, most guys loathe Valentine’s Day. But they endure through, trying to find some way of wooing their lady in hopes of getting lucky. Unfortunately, when making the day’s plans guys have already begun to think with the wrong head. The ladies, having no other choice but putting up with men in general, are hoping my some miracle he doesn’t screw this one up like last time.
This is not to say that I haven’t made my share of, let’s say, “mistakes” over the years. And quite honestly I feel as useful as Mike Damone handing out romance tips, but I can tell you there are some basic things that I have seen and learned from watching my customers successes and failure over the years
- First off, plan ahead: Don’t wait to the last minute trying to put something together.
- Be creative. It doesn’t take much effort to find a cool, thoughtful, and romantic way to spend the day or evening. reenacting a first date, or visiting the place your first said ‘I love you’ are starts. Maybe even a stay-home-in-our-pj’s-and-watch-movie thing would be the right way to go.
- Turn off the cellphone. There is no call, no friend, and few situations that can’t wait until the morning while you and your squeeze spend some time together.
- Speaking of cellphones, don’t send a Facebook message, tweet, or text as the way to say Happy Valentine’s. And don’t send a text saying ‘call me’ so then you can say it. Actually dial her number and talk!!
- Lose the jeans and the T. get a little dressed show. No need for a tux and white gloves, but a little extra care in looking good makes a big impression.
- Don;t break the bank It doesn’t have to be expensive, it doesn’t have to be elaborate and don’t put yourself in bankrupcy over it. But don’t let financial hard times be an excuse not to do ssomething.
- For the guysdon’t buy her lingerie. This is presumptuous, unromantic, and shallow. If she gonna give you some, she has already picked out something sexy. For the gals…don’t forget the lingerie!
- Send a gift to work. We all love a little P.D.A. every now and then.
- Take it easy. Don’t get yourself über stressed about what, where, when, and how. More relaxed = more romantic.
- Write a letter or make a card: Again a little inexpensive effort goes a long way. BTW be sincere and save the sex jokes! make a day of cards: place then around the house, in the car at the office or wherever they’ll be found.
- The only thing you need to be serious about not being serious. Avoid talking about family news, the Ex, relationship struggles, or bad news! Again it can wait a few hours.
- Pick the right spot for both of you. If both of you find hockey romantic, then hit the local sports bar, otherwise………..
Granted taking romance advice from a bartender is asking a Remember Valentine’s Day is about sharing with your lover and celebrating what is special between you. Take a little time to remind yourself and your guy or gal what that is, trun off the phone and spend a little time together. And remember,”When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.” -Mike Damone